I wrote a paper. It's a long paper. And it's linked below. It's the longest paper I have ever written, both in terms of page count and calendar count. My dissertation focused on how digital identities and masculine identities intersect for college men.
The idea for the topic formed a couple of years ago, and I'm not sure that I would have been able to predict how much I enjoyed the process of conducting research and writing about it. I defended the research in May, sent it off to ProQuest and it was just published - I like to think it's because all the folks at ProQuest passed it around to one another to read because it was so interesting and by the time it routed around the office, three months had passed.
Now comes the time to prep presentations and try to get some scaled down versions of the paper published. Here's to sharing the results... and finding more time to conduct research in the future!
You can view my dissertation defense presentation (about 25:00 long). It's not that interesting, but it's proof that I actually finished this thing.
You can view the slides from my dissertation defense here:
And you can download the full dissertation HERE.
Interested in this topic? I'd love to connect.
You can connect with me on Twitter, LinkedIn, or via email!
Thursday, September 7, 2017
Friday, March 4, 2016
What I Learned Running 100 Days in a Row
Persistence can often lead us to self-awareness. I used to run quite a bit. I would never have classified myself as “a runner,” but running was a big part of my life. My wife and I have run 4 marathons, probably 20+ half marathons. We’ve run together, we’ve run separately, we’ve run pushing our boys in strollers or next to us on bikes, we’ve run in snow, rain, sleet, and wind – the important part was that we were running.
Then sometimes you just slow down. You have difficulty
finding enough time or enough energy to do the things you loved to do. Work – even on the good days – absolutely
drains many of us of all our energy. Work is tough. Parenthood is tough. An
aging and expanding body is tough.
I ran my last marathon in October 2012 and it was a rough
experience. I began to run less and less until I essentially did not run for
about 2 years. There was a hole there – a sense that something was missing. I
used to be bothered when I went more than a couple days without a good run, but
you slowly adjust and I began to miss it less.
Frustrated with myself for getting out of shape (remember
that bit about the aging & expanding body? It ages and expands rapidly
these days), I decided to take the “Runner’s World Run Streak Challenge,” which
was to run at least a mile a day every day between Thanksgiving and New Year’s
Day. I had done a 30-day run streak a few years ago and thought this one (37
days) would be manageable. I had hardly run in the previous 6 months, but
figured I could do at least a mile every day. Maybe the routine would pull me
back into running again and recharge my batteries a bit – help me deal with
other stressors in my life.
Day 1 (November 26) |
So here I am at Day 100. It’s been an enlightening
experience. Some days have been brutal – trying to even get one mile in after
10 straight hours of meetings, feeding & putting kids to bed… just trying
to get it done before midnight. Some days have been easy – a 3 mile run on a
sunny day made me feel young again (okay, maybe feel like 30 again). But the
lessons have been awesome and they translate so well to my work life…
Sometimes you have to make time. It isn’t always easy to find the time to do the things you want or need to do, but you have to create the space and time to do it. I realized that even on the “off days” (the days I just ran 1 mile), all I needed was 10 minutes to get it all done. I made time when I had to do it. I never ran earlier than 6:30am and never later than 10pm.
Sometimes
the crappy stuff has to get done. There were a lot of days I just did NOT
want to run. But I realized that even though a run was on my “crappy stuff”
list for the day, it still had to be done. And when I finished it, I could
check it off my list and move on to things I actually felt like doing.
Sometimes
you surprise yourself. I had hardly run for two of the previous three years
and certainly was not ready to run this often. But I did it. 37 days flew by,
the next 20 were easy, and it just kept going until I saw 100 in the sights.
I’ve felt good almost every single day I’ve run – even days when I’m tired or
during a week-long sinus infection – running was the thing that let me feel
good about an accomplishment. And I surprised myself by doing it 100 times in a
row.
Sometimes
people care – sometimes they don’t. I shared pictures occasionally on
social media. I told a few people about it. I have a couple co-workers who
continually encouraged me. Sometimes sharing got me a pat on the back, but
sometimes people just didn’t care. And that’s okay. Sometimes you do difficult
things because you want to accomplish it, not because someone will click “like”
or congratulate you on it.
Persistence
pays. Just put your head down and go – give me at least 10 minutes. I
pretty much said that to myself 100 days in a row. You can do anything for 100
days – it’s a small segment of life for most of us, and the personal sense of
achievement far outweighs any discomfort. It was never about speed, it was
never about distance, it was never about competition – it was entirely about
challenging myself to do something. Stick with it… whatever it is.
I’m lucky to be able to run - to have the luxury of lacing
up nice running shoes, running on a treadmill at a gym or in a safe
neighborhood. Some days it was 1 mile, sometimes it was 4 miles. It was never fast and won't ever be fast. But a run is a run. So this streak is a challenge I
chose, and you know what? The streak continues. Because why stop at 100? Here’s
to the next 100 and continued lessons in persistence.
Day 100! (March 4) |
Tuesday, August 11, 2015
Writing for Fun
Once upon a time I wanted to be a journalist. More specifically, I wanted to be a sportswriter.
As an undergraduate, I had the relatively unique opportunity to write for the sports section of a regional newspaper. I started as a stringer, taking calls from coaches who were reporting scores and typing up agate. After a few months, I asked if I could cover a game. Sometime in the summer of 1999, I got to cover a Mankato Twins game. It was just an amateur, town-ball league game but I remember being nervous and anxious about whether I'd get the details right, if I'd figure out which player to interview, and if I'd even have enough to say when writing up a game story (under DEADLINE!)
The first paragraph from the first game was a beauty. Elaborate, setting the stage, providing readers with a glimpse into the national past time and the sights & sounds on that field that night. Then one of the senior writers helped me review it. He took one look and said, "Might be a little much. How about 'It was a beautiful night for baseball...' and then don't forget to put in the score." Solid advice for a rookie.
I got better with practice and covered dozens and dozens of games over the next 4-5 years. I covered Minnesota Vikings OTAs at Winter Park, Gustavus athletics, Minnesota State-Mankato events and something at just about every high school in a 30 mile radius. I even managed to squeeze 15 column inches out of a 0-0 tie in a U15 girls soccer. I loved writing and it gave me a more enjoyable outlet than English major-required papers about the Bronte sisters.
I gave it up when I moved away from St. Peter but I never lost the itch to write and to cover events. I missed watching events with an eye toward human interest story lines, unique statistics, etc. Writing has always been enjoyable for me and certainly came to me much more easily than math equations or biology.
The introvert in me struggles to interview others, but I've found that most people will be more engaged and respectful in dialogue when they have something to gain by being appropriate and thoughtful. The natural impulse for most people is to simply be waiting for their chance to speak when engaged in "dialogue." But when I'm interviewing someone, my question and line of inquiry dictates the conversation - others are waiting to be sure they know what I'm asking before they blurt out their quickest response. I like that.
So I stayed in touch (primarily through social media) with connections at the Mankato paper and in May, the sports editor called asking if I'd be interested in writing as a freelancer. Absolutely. I miss writing - I've written academic papers and emails over the last decade, but nothing that was what I consider fun. So I said yes.
My first assignment: North Mankato Triathlon. I was extremely nervous before the race - almost as nervous as some of the participants, I think. The same fears as I remembered from more than a decade earlier - would I miss a detail? Would I have enough to write? Fear of not performing is what scared me, but it's what motivates me to try to write well.
As I watched the event and took notes, it started coming back to me. I wasn't so scared and I started running through potential ledes and looking for potential human interest parts of the event. Pretty soon I had enough to fill 15 column inches. The enjoyment of covering an event and creating the words to tell a story was definitely something I missed.
I'm happy to be back in the game - even if it's only an occasional game story.
The story didn't run on the Free Press website, but Angie snapped a pic of it:
As an undergraduate, I had the relatively unique opportunity to write for the sports section of a regional newspaper. I started as a stringer, taking calls from coaches who were reporting scores and typing up agate. After a few months, I asked if I could cover a game. Sometime in the summer of 1999, I got to cover a Mankato Twins game. It was just an amateur, town-ball league game but I remember being nervous and anxious about whether I'd get the details right, if I'd figure out which player to interview, and if I'd even have enough to say when writing up a game story (under DEADLINE!)
The first paragraph from the first game was a beauty. Elaborate, setting the stage, providing readers with a glimpse into the national past time and the sights & sounds on that field that night. Then one of the senior writers helped me review it. He took one look and said, "Might be a little much. How about 'It was a beautiful night for baseball...' and then don't forget to put in the score." Solid advice for a rookie.
I got better with practice and covered dozens and dozens of games over the next 4-5 years. I covered Minnesota Vikings OTAs at Winter Park, Gustavus athletics, Minnesota State-Mankato events and something at just about every high school in a 30 mile radius. I even managed to squeeze 15 column inches out of a 0-0 tie in a U15 girls soccer. I loved writing and it gave me a more enjoyable outlet than English major-required papers about the Bronte sisters.
I gave it up when I moved away from St. Peter but I never lost the itch to write and to cover events. I missed watching events with an eye toward human interest story lines, unique statistics, etc. Writing has always been enjoyable for me and certainly came to me much more easily than math equations or biology.
The introvert in me struggles to interview others, but I've found that most people will be more engaged and respectful in dialogue when they have something to gain by being appropriate and thoughtful. The natural impulse for most people is to simply be waiting for their chance to speak when engaged in "dialogue." But when I'm interviewing someone, my question and line of inquiry dictates the conversation - others are waiting to be sure they know what I'm asking before they blurt out their quickest response. I like that.
So I stayed in touch (primarily through social media) with connections at the Mankato paper and in May, the sports editor called asking if I'd be interested in writing as a freelancer. Absolutely. I miss writing - I've written academic papers and emails over the last decade, but nothing that was what I consider fun. So I said yes.
My first assignment: North Mankato Triathlon. I was extremely nervous before the race - almost as nervous as some of the participants, I think. The same fears as I remembered from more than a decade earlier - would I miss a detail? Would I have enough to write? Fear of not performing is what scared me, but it's what motivates me to try to write well.
As I watched the event and took notes, it started coming back to me. I wasn't so scared and I started running through potential ledes and looking for potential human interest parts of the event. Pretty soon I had enough to fill 15 column inches. The enjoyment of covering an event and creating the words to tell a story was definitely something I missed.
I'm happy to be back in the game - even if it's only an occasional game story.
The story didn't run on the Free Press website, but Angie snapped a pic of it:
Friday, July 10, 2015
Men in SA e-book!
Proud to be a part of this awesome e-book from the Student Affairs Collective. Sean Eddington started this as a blog series and it was an awesome way to talk and read about what it means to be a man in Student Affairs.
Check it out now on Amazon or on the Student Affairs Collective!
Sunday, March 22, 2015
The Power of Anonymity & Community Conversation
We have had our fair share of issues around anonymous social media lately on our little campus in southern Minnesota. After a few gender-related concerns about our campus recreation facility followed by some misguided conversation around a student-led social justice conference on campus, the issue of rape culture took over the Yik Yak airwaves.
Horrible, horrible things were said by men on campus via this anonymous app. Aggressive responses were met with more hate and the animosity grew. Two fantastic student leaders decided to put together a campus-wide forum to discuss "Free Speech, Social Media & Creating Conversations." The event - attended by about 150 people - was moderated, questions were taken from Yik Yak directly (gulp) as well as from the audience. I was asked by the coordinators to be a panelist (gulp) and speak briefly on "Social Media & Anonymity" before joining a panel up front to take questions (gulp).
I spoke for just 3-4 minutes and felt good about my message. Most of the questions for the panelists that day were handled by the Vice President for Student Life and the two exceedingly intelligent faculty members. I just smiled a lot and tried to not sound silly.
The event was successful. As expected, there was not clear resolution. However, the conversation was started and in a very public way. Anonymity has its place in community - I truly believe it can. But a conversation that allowed for both anonymity and face-to-face interaction proved to be of great value.
I felt like posting what I wrote and read that day.
Horrible, horrible things were said by men on campus via this anonymous app. Aggressive responses were met with more hate and the animosity grew. Two fantastic student leaders decided to put together a campus-wide forum to discuss "Free Speech, Social Media & Creating Conversations." The event - attended by about 150 people - was moderated, questions were taken from Yik Yak directly (gulp) as well as from the audience. I was asked by the coordinators to be a panelist (gulp) and speak briefly on "Social Media & Anonymity" before joining a panel up front to take questions (gulp).
I spoke for just 3-4 minutes and felt good about my message. Most of the questions for the panelists that day were handled by the Vice President for Student Life and the two exceedingly intelligent faculty members. I just smiled a lot and tried to not sound silly.
The event was successful. As expected, there was not clear resolution. However, the conversation was started and in a very public way. Anonymity has its place in community - I truly believe it can. But a conversation that allowed for both anonymity and face-to-face interaction proved to be of great value.
I felt like posting what I wrote and read that day.
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I'm here today to talk
briefly about social media & anonymity.
Specifically, where
does ethical and social obligation begin & end in digital space. This is
hard enough to navigate in spheres in which we carry names, but particularly in
the realm of the anonymous.
Anonymity can be
powerful. Anonymity, by definition IS and in theory SHOULD BE, void of labels.
Void of names. Void of direct judgement within the context of who you are.
Erikson said identity
is a "conscious sense of individual uniqueness." The ability to be
anonymous in digital space allows us to obscure that part of us that accrues
reputation. This seems counter-intuitive to who we are here at Gustavus, right?
We spend so much time working on our resumes and our experiences, yet we often find
solace in anonymity. But maybe that's the appeal. The ability to just be
another person and not carry the stigma of what you have to say.
Rey Junco is a leader
scholar in the area of research around college students and social media. He
says that online anonymity is a powerful force for democratic freedoms,
interpersonal growth and creative expression. The American college campus is a
place defined by those three things. Students from subordinated identities
often thrive when given an opportunity to express themselves anonymously.
I talk often of
"Keyboard Warriors," those individuals who hide behind the shield of
a screen and keyboard in order to speak what they feel is a truth they would
otherwise not be willing to speak to our faces. Keyboard Warriors say horrible
things. Keyboard Warriors can be nasty, belittling and angry. Now add the mask
of anonymity, and the Keyboard Warriors are not just hiding behind false
courage, they are performing while knowing we don't know who they are. Junco
refers to this as "the online disinhibition effect." The removal of
social barriers that would prevent one from speaking his or her mind.
This is complicated.
We know that developing identity involves a stable sense of self that is both
internally consistent and externally validated - so can that happen when you're
anonymous?
Anonymity via social
networking is nothing new. There have been anonymous chat rooms and web pages
since the internet was created. But the widespread appeal and access to mobile
applications that allow for anonymity have raised this within our
consciousness. Social media is not just another thing on our list of things to
do - it is a central means of communication, of idea and knowledge sharing and
of making statements that reach wide audiences.
The average Tweet
reaches four times what we assume the audience to be and we never know it.
Facebook changes its algorithms like I change shirts, so who knows what sort of
statement goes to 10 of your friends today but to 100 future employers
tomorrow. A Yak, though void of an identifier, might reach thousands of people
within a geographical radius. So what does that say about our obligation to one
another?
We know that nearly 90%
of the population aged 18-29 uses social media and we know that Yik Yak is used
on nearly every college campus in the country. So what? So we better understand
how we’re using it and our ability to be aware of intent vs impact.
Those who want to
limit access to Yik Yak feel it's only destructive and harmful. The opposite
stance is that by limiting Yik Yak we curtail free speech. But free speech
often requires a thoughtful approach to context. Just because you CAN say
something does not mean you SHOULD. Your platform has power. Your words have
power. Whether your name is tied to it or not.
I'm here to talk about
social media but it's not the platform, my friends. We can blame anonymity for
our challenges and we can blame Yik Yak all we want. But the root of the
problem with offensive, crude posts on Yik Yak is that people are writing these
things. Gusties are writing these things.
But maybe there’s a
light. Because Gusties are also writing the positive Yaks.
And anonymity doesn’t have
to mean “awful.” Anonymity can have power, anonymity can have positivity. The
platform is really just potential. It's what we choose to do with it that makes
it matter.
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What are your thoughts on anonymity in social media?
What role does it play on your campus - is it finding it's way comfortably into your community or is it acting as a disruptor?
Is disruption good or bad?
How are you helping educate students on the power of language?
What are you learning about the power of language?
Monday, March 9, 2015
My Job is More Than What I Post
I just returned from ACPA in Tampa. ACPA is quite the production - the planning team did a wonderful job creating a huge schedule of educational sessions, receptions, featured speakers, etc. It's a professional development opportunity that has me thinking - and that's the best kind.
My flight home took awhile and while I spent most of it contemplating whatever time vortex I was entering going from eastern time to central time to daylight saving time all within a span of an hour (the quick answer: I just didn't need to change my clocks. It felt weirder than it really was), I had a chance to reflect a bit on what I learned.
I kept cycling through things I learned and things I read on the Twitter backchannel (#ACPA15 was blowin' up all weekend) and I kept getting stuck on one central idea:
I worry that we do this a lot. That we share things on social media (self-aggrandizing blogs like this one included) that we don't translate to our daily work. We look better online than we actually do at work.
Is it a matter of not having the time or energy? I write about ideas and Tweet things all the time that then make it to the to-do list but fall to the cutting room floor when the never-ending daily minutiae of the job catch up with me.
Is it a lack of confidence? A friend refers to internet trolls as "keyboard warriors" - Those who gain courage behind the cover of a keyboard and screen, saying things in comment sections and on social media that they would never say to someone's face. To shift the definition a bit to speak to a question of courage, are we "keyboard warriors" because we often brag and highlight the things we WANT to do (or think that others should do) but lack the courage to actually try them or make them happen in real life?
How do we translate the amazing ideas we hear about and talk about at professional development opportunities like ACPA to our daily work?
What are you taking home in that notebook that you will absolutely MAKE HAPPEN?
I want to be proud of the fact that the the enthusiasm and interest with which I approach student affairs-related topics on social media matches the work I do on my own campus.
Professional development in student affairs is about practical application - not just big conference registration fees and hotel bills and cool new cities. Put your thoughts (and the thoughts of others) into action at your own institution.
My flight home took awhile and while I spent most of it contemplating whatever time vortex I was entering going from eastern time to central time to daylight saving time all within a span of an hour (the quick answer: I just didn't need to change my clocks. It felt weirder than it really was), I had a chance to reflect a bit on what I learned.
I kept cycling through things I learned and things I read on the Twitter backchannel (#ACPA15 was blowin' up all weekend) and I kept getting stuck on one central idea:
I don't want to be better at my job on social media than I am at doing my job in real life.
I worry that we do this a lot. That we share things on social media (self-aggrandizing blogs like this one included) that we don't translate to our daily work. We look better online than we actually do at work.
Is it a matter of not having the time or energy? I write about ideas and Tweet things all the time that then make it to the to-do list but fall to the cutting room floor when the never-ending daily minutiae of the job catch up with me.
Is it a lack of confidence? A friend refers to internet trolls as "keyboard warriors" - Those who gain courage behind the cover of a keyboard and screen, saying things in comment sections and on social media that they would never say to someone's face. To shift the definition a bit to speak to a question of courage, are we "keyboard warriors" because we often brag and highlight the things we WANT to do (or think that others should do) but lack the courage to actually try them or make them happen in real life?
How do we translate the amazing ideas we hear about and talk about at professional development opportunities like ACPA to our daily work?
What are you taking home in that notebook that you will absolutely MAKE HAPPEN?
I want to be proud of the fact that the the enthusiasm and interest with which I approach student affairs-related topics on social media matches the work I do on my own campus.
Professional development in student affairs is about practical application - not just big conference registration fees and hotel bills and cool new cities. Put your thoughts (and the thoughts of others) into action at your own institution.
Sunday, January 4, 2015
Keeping the Small Problems Small
I just read a great blog post by Stacy Oliver called "Tuesday was a Bad Day." It was a post that brought forward the idea of thinking more critically about how we talk about the bad days we have. We all have bad says. Even the most optimistic and talented professionals have crappy days - it happens and it's okay that it happens.
We tend to gloss over the bad stuff and talk about the positive stuff. Might be a defense mechanism, might be fear of letting negativity overwhelm us, might be a by-product of how social media has turned us into highlight-reel monsters. Whatever it is, I think Stacy had some great points and it made me think more about how I handle disappointment in my job.
Stacy talked about some very tragic, life-altering bad things that made life tough. It made me think about my own work but on a much different level... I have a terrible habit of small things ruining my day at work.
Maybe a student is incredibly disrespectful. Maybe a tough immediate budget decision means a program or event will not be as great as you thought it would. Maybe someone in another department doesn't want to hear or understand the rationale behind a relatively minor decision. These little things at work pile up and I let them affect my performance as a professional.
These kinds of things happen all the time and I let them take control of my day. I get anxious, frustrated and agitated and it starts to negatively influence other interactions and decisions. I like to think it's not simply about being right or being in control - that it's more a matter of principle than anything - and I often let it ruin part of a day before I realize it's not worth it.
Richard Carlson's Don't Sweat the Small Stuff was a stress management/self-help book in the late 1990s and the classic title has become sort of a catch-phrase when talking to someone about being stressed. But Carlson had some great ideas and some suggestions about how to understand the scope of problems and how to work through them without letting them pile up. He talks about letting problems be potential teachers (aka "failing forward"), about trusting intuition and taking care of one thing at time. It's helpful advice that I rarely make happen.
I was also reminded of a very helpful metaphor that one of my grad school faculty members told us once. While talking about the doctoral process, she put aside the "just spend 20 minutes a day working on it" approach and instead focused on helping us reframe all the tedious tasks along the path to completing the program.
She held up a big piece of rock and had us describe it. Bulky, opaque, clunky, a burden, etc. Then she held up a glass jar full of clear plastic beads and had us describe it. Light, transparent, manageable, etc. The lesson was that the rock was how we likely imagine problems, but the glass beads were how we should view problems. Focus on confidently handling the small problems - the tedious tasks, the minor setbacks - because they are the easiest to handle if we take it piece by piece. I find this incredibly helpful in thinking about my own daily work - now only if I'd remember it more frequently. I had hoped the more experience I had the more I'd be able to compartmentalize - to minimize the effect that small stuff had on me - but I'm resigned to the fact that I'll always have thin skin.
Stacy reminds us that "It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to be tired, to be sad, to be frustrated by the limits of our ability to help, to be challenged... it’s okay to talk about in a way that helps other professionals to learn and not feel isolated when the bad days happen to them."
She's right. We don't talk about it enough. We may process with colleagues, but we run the risk of seeming whiny or unprofessional. Or we run the risk of sounding like we're complaining or that we don't measure up to others if we share the tough stuff on social media, which is often our first place to express emotion these days.
Stacy asked: How do you talk about the bad days with your colleagues, peers, or staff?
How do you talk about it? And not just the big events or major setbacks, but how do you talk about tough days when the little things pile up? Talk about the small stuff. Maybe by doing so, you can keep the small problems small. And maybe by doing so we make the big things easier to talk about...
How do you talk about it? And not just the big events or major setbacks, but how do you talk about tough days when the little things pile up? Talk about the small stuff. Maybe by doing so, you can keep the small problems small. And maybe by doing so we make the big things easier to talk about...
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